tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7172024566124548290.post1130402596026151531..comments2023-06-22T01:46:27.819-07:00Comments on I am being: patientTricia Huffmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10309918695802962955noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7172024566124548290.post-77518916910188099092010-03-19T16:04:31.079-07:002010-03-19T16:04:31.079-07:00@anonymous, I so agree w/your last statement...I h...@anonymous, I so agree w/your last statement...I had a friend who would always want me to come to her side of town, not that I lived that far from her but she wanted convenience... anyhow the past 2 times she would tell me she would call so we could get together... granted she works, takes care of her ailing mom... i have given up trying.. and I feel that if that person truly wants to get together will be on time, no excuses... i think the one who is constantly late, and not owning up to it is self centered and controlling... I've got this rule: if one is 30 min. late and I've tried to contact them and no answer, I leave...and if that doesn't get thru, then they are one tool short as they say.Kalei's Best Friendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12331539743751163269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7172024566124548290.post-59446330852135519812010-03-19T12:31:34.916-07:002010-03-19T12:31:34.916-07:00I had a friend just like that for over 5 yrs. I w...I had a friend just like that for over 5 yrs. I was always there for her and she was never there for me. I finally gave up. I told her exactly how I felt, and she decided that was the end of our friendship. She had no interest in changing or working to keep our friendship under different "terms." So we parted ways, and looking back, I have to say it's one of the best things that ever happened to me even though I was so hurt and upset at the time and for awhile afterwards. She was a waste of my time, and apparently was here to teach me not to waste my time on those who don't return my affections or appreciate it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7172024566124548290.post-74018057581635832652010-03-17T09:09:59.428-07:002010-03-17T09:09:59.428-07:00I've had this discussion with myself in my hea...I've had this discussion with myself in my head and even gone so far to wonder if its me with the issue only to cycle back to no...its simply the difference in who we are as people and the value we place on time and the people we deem important in our life. It became the most glaring to me when my mother died and I too needed support in my life. I too found that being the always there strong person had left me surrounded by those who were unable to see when I did need them to be strong for me or at least be my soft place when I needed a shoulder. It was disappointing until I saw my role in creating it. I don't ask for much from the people in my life and I love to give so I attract these people to me. What I also found is that I have this whole other circle of friends that I adore who I didn't think I was as close to because they are like me, strong and independent women and our friendship isn't based on their needing me or me them...it is based on common interests and in love and respect for who we are. They were there for me, they saw my need and stepped up when I needed it and we've grown much closer. We all know now that we can reach out and know someone will be there. My other friends are life friends and we will always reconnect along life's road and it will be like we never were apart. They will just never be my strength when I need a little extra to pull me through. I will continue to be theirs when they need it because it is what we agreed to when this friendship was conceived and I do love them without question for who they are! Good people who need me and offer unconditional love and friendship in the best way they know how.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03564096520501092508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7172024566124548290.post-44871753205150716362010-03-17T03:49:32.480-07:002010-03-17T03:49:32.480-07:00I know exactly what you mean. Recently, I went hom...I know exactly what you mean. Recently, I went home to Miami and made plans with a close friend for the Thursday I arrived. She never called me back. Friday, we made plans again, and she never called at the time of the plans. Again, this occurred on Saturday, going to the point where she'd texted me that she was "eating a sandwich and then leaving" and then never hearing from her for the rest of the day. My feelings were very, very hurt and I felt tiny and unimportant. We're still friends. I love her. It's tough, though.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13420949984566981064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7172024566124548290.post-70026607623955467562010-03-17T01:33:43.257-07:002010-03-17T01:33:43.257-07:00This is exactly what I needed! Thank you:-)
I was...This is exactly what I needed! Thank you:-)<br /><br />I was reading a book, there it says "every person appears in your life for a reson..." so this friend appears to teach you patience. Awesome! :-)gipsysoulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09718154805787781298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7172024566124548290.post-3687205753211921282010-03-16T22:17:38.086-07:002010-03-16T22:17:38.086-07:00Tricia, I am so right there with you. This happen...Tricia, I am so right there with you. This happens in almost all my friendships--I feel like I give so much to my friendships that it eventually runs me down, and can lead to me resenting the people in my life I should cherish the most. This is something that, like you, goes on chronically with my best friend, whom I've known for going on 15 years. When we're apart, she is a huge flake and seems like she couldn't care less about our friendship--but when we're together, it's like we're 9 years old again and the best thing in the world was Itzakadoozie popsicles. It breaks my heart, but I know that I am a strong person and part of my purpose is to give love wholly and thoroughly, and I have come to be okay with that, but this blog post reinforces it. Thank you for the peace you've helped to give me :)Nataleighhttp://twitter.com/ilyauraamournoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7172024566124548290.post-51254091451757163262010-03-16T21:19:45.796-07:002010-03-16T21:19:45.796-07:00I had a friend like that for a while, and for the ...I had a friend like that for a while, and for the longest time, I tried not to let it get to me. There did a come a point, though, when I realized that I was spending more energy thinking about and rationalizing this friendship to myself than actual real-life time spent with her. That gave me a pause. I'll never really write someone out of my life but after that, I did notice that I felt happier nurturing friendships with the many awesome people I see on a much more regular basis than the few inaccessible ones I can't reach.E.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00489558954460381859noreply@blogger.com